Because when you can do that, you’re then able to kind of let your guard down and hear what’s actually happening in the situation rather than what you fear might be happening. And so when they happen in the future you can sort of course correct earlier.”Ĭuddy’s book is Presence: Bring Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges.Īmy Cuddy: Presence is the state of being attuned to, and able to comfortably express, your true self - so your best qualities, your core values, your personality - and really to do so under stressful circumstances. “So once you’ve identified what’s happening in the situation when those things happen,” says Cuddy, “you start to become much more attuned to those bodily cues. Cuddy’s point is not about overcoming evolutionary forces, but that noticing how your body reacts to stressful situations - what makes your palm sweat, for example? - is a way to identify what are your biggest life challenges.
your nervous system, is evolved to deal with life-or-death situations. While a job interview or family dispute is probably not a matter of life-or-death, it may feel that way because your biology, e.g. If you go into stressful situations with a strong sense of what these bedrock qualities are for you, you’ll perform better in the face of adversity, says Cuddy.
But what is constant across these events is our true self: our beliefs, values, and abilities. What these events are - a job interview, a stressful social or family situation - vary from person to person. That comes down to an idea she calls “presence,” which means bringing your best self to life’s most challenging events. So if you are looking to be yourself - indeed, your best and strongest self - it is important to understand what you believe, what you value, and what your abilities are, says Amy Cuddy. How do you know when you’ve found it? Hasn’t the search for yourself changed who you are? And don’t your experiences in life constantly shape you into a new person? Suffice it to say that being authentic does not mean reacting to life in easily predictable ways. If the only constant in life is change, as the Greek philosopher Heraclitus said, finding your true, bedrock self becomes a problematic idea.
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